"Cause you're hot than you're cold, you're yes than you're no, you're in then you're out, you're up then you're down! You're wrong when its right. Its black and its white. We fight we break up, we kiss, we make up. You don't really wanna stay, no! But you don't really wanna go-oh! Someone call the doctor, got a case of a love bi-polar! Stuck on a rollercoster, cant get off this riiiiideee!!!"
Katy Perry said it right. "Love bi-polar" boys and girls ARE out there. And they do change their mind like a girl changes clothes. We have all come across someone like this at one time or another. But when does the hot and cold get old? Things like this are more measured in feelings than time. If you're crying yourself to sleep everyday for a week, then I think you should get out ASAP.
There are many reasons to not wait around for someone like this. Though they do have their perks and I do bet you're telling yourself "They'll commit soon and everything will be perfect" you gotta take a page out of Greg Bernhardt book "He's just not that into you" and not waste the pretty. As much as you hope and wish and pray this person will change and fully commit to you. Chances are they won't. People tend to work on the principal of "why buy the cow when you can get the sex for free". If they really care about you. Show them that you're not gonna wait around for their sorry asses to get into gear and move on. Don't just say you have and mope at home watching the Notebook with a box full of tissues either.
Another excuse I have heard is, "If I leave him now, he might meet another girl and be totally perfect and I will have missed out!" The problem with this sorry excuse is that if he does change, it will be because he wanted to impress this new woman. You wont be able to! Men don't change if they know they can stay the same and still have what they want.. Bastards, huh?
What about the problems they claim to have being the reason they cant commit? This isn't a reason for you to wait around for them either. Problems or not, they wont change for you. Even if you manage to fix their addled heads and band-aid their wounds. Once men get into a habit of treating you an a particular way, they wont change. TRUST ME!! THEY WONT!!!
Some of this could be due to the way you act. Even though some men are bastards, some girls don't know how to attract nice guys.. I know this girl, 'Jannet' we'll call her. She dresses in skin tight silver dresses, talks loudly about her sex life and boasts about her STDs. Not very attractive to the any nice male. To a jerk who just wants to put his 'thing' in everything, shes perfect! She's the somewhere to put that 'thing' for tonight, and he wont feel bad not calling her the next day, cause "she's just some slut who loves it" (taken from an actual conversation about Jannet). Then next time I speak to Jannet, she cries to me about how the guy she slept with gave her the number for the rejection line. Respect isn't just something you give your boss and your parents. You need to respect yourself first.
If you find yourself in these situations more often than not, maybe you need to look at yourself. How you act, dress, talk, everything. Now I'm not saying change. No, but whatever you do, respect yourself. If you respect yourself, you'll find that other people do too!
Then Mister Hot n' Cold and Mister One Night Stand will disappear and Mister Calls the next day and always wants you will waltz into your life!
In short, never put up with feeling like crap. You are an amazing girl and you need to love yourself first and foremost. How will a guy ever love and respect you if you cant even do that? Tell yourself your beautiful everyday, dress respectfully and don't be scared to throw a drink in a guys face for being a pig to you. (Its really fun too)
Live to love girls! And Love to live!
xo-xo
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