Dear Lorena

"Dear Lorena, My boyfriend is a really great guy, he's nice, considerate and a gentleman in all the right ways, we are most definitely in love and considering life together forever, but there is someone between us that i just cant get past. His World of Warcraft character has taken over his life and is threatening to ruin our relationship, he spends all of his spare time on the game so much in fact that i feel like they are in a relationship and I'm just a good friend. I've tried everything but can't get his attention, what should i do?"

Dear 'Good Friend'.

Sounds like something I went through a while ago. Men are a strange bunch aren't they? Getting all cave-man and wanting to battle dragons and what not. But what they need to realise is that though fighting dragons and evil demons is fun, so is being with the one you love. You just need to remind him of that. Your first move should be a direct one. Sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel. Every single detail. If he gets sooky about it then put him on probation. Show him what life would be like if it was just him and the game. Who will cook him dinner? Who will cuddle him? The game sure wont! No, that would be you. And you shouldn't even have to initiate all that or be the one to cook him dinner anyway! No ma'am.

When you're living together in a relationship all things should be equal. You shouldn't have to drive to the shops alone to get things to eat while he sits there and tries to obtain the 'sword of doom' or whatever. He should be with you, helping you pick out dinner and carrying the heavy things. Start doing your own shopping, buy treats for yourself. Start to act like a single girl if you have to. Go out with friends and have girly sleepovers! (This does not mean cheat to those playing at home) Do your hair and make-up for the hell of it. Ignore him like he ignores you.

If this still doesn't work. Have "THE TALK" (dun dun dunnnn). Show him you're serious. You don't want this sort of relationship anymore. You want a boyfriend, not a adolescent son you have to take care of. Tell him to shape up, or ship off! You're better than being a maid for someone who wont cuddle you or cook you dinner.

So all in all the steps I'd follow are these, 1. Talk, 2. How life is without you, 3. Ignore, 4. Taste of his own medicine. And if none of that works then you're probably better off finding a guy who you wont even need to get to step 1 with. That would be step 5. Tell him to move out.

I hope this helped you, they tend to get soft after step 3 so I think you'll be fine. Especially if you're right and he is a great guy.

All the best!

xo-xo