Ever thine. Ever mine. Ever ours.

"My heart never left you for a second and I am and will be until in the other world the one who loved you without measure"

- Hector Savinien Cyrano de Bergerac to his beloved Roxane

I know its a little early in the year to start talking about Love, we should wait until Valentines Day right? Wrong. Love shouldn't have to wait. Besides! We gotta get someone to love before we can have a Valentine right?

I was talking to a girl in PeterAlexander today about Valentines day and what we - the newly single - were going to do. Most women in this category spend the day alone. Box of chocolates in hand, tissues in the other and The Notebook on. Wiping tears and wishing we had a man to snuggle in to. This ladies, needs to stop. Put on those bright pink cargo pants and repeat after me!!! "I don't need a man to make me happy!!!" And you shouldn't! After all, you're a super fox who could rule the world if you put in the effort.

First things first. If not the calorie fest and romance movie marathon, then what? Well. Did I ever say you had to throw that idea out? No. Tailor it to something less tragic, and well, more fun!!! Grab all your single gal pals and arrange a big night in! Nail polish, popcorn, pink cupcakes, what more could you want? Still thinking "a man! Duuh!!!" Well guess what. You're doing it wrong. Chuck on some movies where men are total idiots! Sure most of them come good in the end. But they are always idiots before they meet the girl. ;)

If you're a bit like me and lacking the funds and gal pals, you could grab your GBF (gay/guy best friend) and hit the town. You don't need to go on a date, but its nice to spoil someone if you care about them. Boyfriend or not. Just ask them if they'd like to hang out and boycott Valentines Day with you. I'm sure they'll say yes.

Spoil yourself. Hit up Lush, or the Body Shop and grab some yummy smelling delights. Dye your hair and get your nails done!! You gotta show these boys what you're worth. Get some silk JimJams and show yourself a little love. ;) If you know what I mean...


But enough about V day. Thats one day out of a whole year!!! Why should you have to wait all that time to be a girly girl and show yourself some love? You should take a little time out of every day to show yourself how special you are. Smile at yourself in the mirror, take a 5 minute break and think about what you've acheived today. It doesnt have to cost you money everytime - though it would be nice - after all, its the thought that counts.

NOW! Onto the good stuff. The BOY stuff. How to snag yourself a SNAG (Sensitive New Age Guy). Trust me, these are the guys you want. But beware! Some men can be Jerks in SNAGs clothing. I came across this exact thing in a past relationship. I got the whole 9 yards. Roses to my work, fancy dinners out. But the thing was, I was a "ball buster", he forgot to call for 4 days and worst of all, he didnt like my puppy. Sorry bucko. Not interested!!

You should never let any man tell you how you should be, what you should do and what you should like. You are you. You come first and last! So with that in mind, and if you put up your standards, you will meet better men. Its really that simple!

Too many girls I come across I see with total losers. No job, bossy, rude, cant stop swearing, just not nice men. I pulled one of my girl friends aside and asked her why she was with such a god-aweful man. Her answer "Its the best I can do". I stopped, dumbfounded. How the hell can this Goddess of a woman be serious!? But she was! Dead serious. She thought this guy was the best you could get in this day and age! Suddenly I felt blessed for the boy I've been seeing. He may be a little quirky but he is a Prince commpaired to this jerk.

How to spot a catch, 101 by me.

He will open car doors, pay where he can and never talk down to you. He'll tell you 'you're beautiful' and mean it. He'll pay on the first date, call you/msg you, think about you, tell you he's thinking about you, put in the effort and make you feel amazing.

Most importantly he WONT mess you about. He knows you're a queen. And he'll treat you like one. This however is NOT license to walk all over the guy. Just because he bought you all that nice food and those flowers does not mean he is made of money. Offer to pay sometimes and don't forget your manners, say 'Thank you'. But the first date is all him, so you shouldn't have to bring your wallet. You're the catch, remember?

*(Also, good men arn't always loaded, they'll do what they can but sometimes they just cant. Please don't hold it against them. They can make up for it by cooking for you - feelble efforts still count - picking flowers, writing poetry/songs/letters, etc. Let the love flow, not the cash)

IMPORTANT! He will chase you. Don't you dare chase him. Put down that phone!! Right now young lady! You are worth calling. And if he's worth answering, he'll call. Trust me. I know, I know. Its hard to sit there and wait for someone else to do something isn't it. After all most men arn't really good at that sort of thing. But he *will* call you, or email you if he doesnt have your number or show up at your door with flowers and a dumb grin on his face, or sometimes just the dumb grin. He'll find you if he really wants you. There is nothing worse than being with someone who isnt that into you, so just let him chase.

But what about before the first date? How do you find these alleged good guys that'll do all this wonderful stuff for you? Its hard to pick the duds from the studs from afar. So, get amongst it! You wont get asked out on dates sitting on your couch watching Gossip Girl and painting your nails! Grab a group of friends and go out dancing, go wine tasting, horse riding, sky diving! Anything that'll get you outside and meeting new people, and if you do something you love, chances are the guys you'll meet there will have similar interests to you. For instance, like scuba diving? Go! You might just score a date with that cute instructor. Remember though, you wont get asked out everywhere you go. But you cant make dating your life either. 'Life is too important to be taken seriously' said Oscar Wilde once. And he's right! Relax, and most of all! ENJOY!