This post is dedicated to my friend moreinterpretations for staying up till 2am to make me my amazing new banner. There was 2 originally, but as I could only use one the tough decision was made and I chose the pink one. Aren't they great? Also for being an awesome writing buddy and making me smile with his emails and book recommendations. Lots of luff to you F! ;)
After a slew of 21st's with still more to come, you can really see friendships people have made come to light. At my friend Talisha's birthday, all her friends made speeches and by the end of it she was crying with happiness, only to top off the speeches with her younger sister saying a few words that had her bawling. It was really moving to see that people could have such a profound effect on each other. She looked really happy and the rest of the night was a blast.
This brought to mind the importance of friendships in your life. Friends with people from school, people you just met out or at social clubs and being friends with your family. Friendship makes life not only bearable but fun! There are all different kinds of friends. You don't have to be together 24/7 to be close, or you could be joined at the hip. You could fight all the time or never have fought a day in your life. Friends come in all shapes and sizes and they are all precious.
Have you told your friends how special they are today?
The truth is, probably not. In this day and age I myself am seeing a new form of commitmaphobia. Its called 'friendship commitmaphobia'. When friends make plans then cancel at the last minute, choose boys over a night with the girls or even forgetting to text back. These things plus many more are the signs that this person may not value your friendship. Along with ignoring you on facebook, ignoring your phone calls or ignoring you in public. Being the person on the other end is never fun. If you are in this situation all you can do is confront them about it and ask if they really want to be your friend and if they cant come up with an answer its probably 'no'. If you see that you're doing it and you don't mean to, take that person out and make sure they know you don't mean it. It can be very upsetting when someone you care about doesn't want to spend time with you, no matter who they are.
Next time a friend invites you out and you say yes, then you get all lazy an hour before you're meant to meet, scrape yourself up and make an effort. They've probably done their hair and make-up by now and are planning where to go! Or if you see a friend is calling you and you don't want to answer, do it anyway. It only takes a few minutes and you'll be making them feel better. Its really very little effort to do these things and they'll leave you both happier people.
Friendship is precious and does require maintenance! Don't let the 21st century ruin your chance at having real friends.
Love love!
xo-xo
This brought to mind the importance of friendships in your life. Friends with people from school, people you just met out or at social clubs and being friends with your family. Friendship makes life not only bearable but fun! There are all different kinds of friends. You don't have to be together 24/7 to be close, or you could be joined at the hip. You could fight all the time or never have fought a day in your life. Friends come in all shapes and sizes and they are all precious.
Have you told your friends how special they are today?
The truth is, probably not. In this day and age I myself am seeing a new form of commitmaphobia. Its called 'friendship commitmaphobia'. When friends make plans then cancel at the last minute, choose boys over a night with the girls or even forgetting to text back. These things plus many more are the signs that this person may not value your friendship. Along with ignoring you on facebook, ignoring your phone calls or ignoring you in public. Being the person on the other end is never fun. If you are in this situation all you can do is confront them about it and ask if they really want to be your friend and if they cant come up with an answer its probably 'no'. If you see that you're doing it and you don't mean to, take that person out and make sure they know you don't mean it. It can be very upsetting when someone you care about doesn't want to spend time with you, no matter who they are.
Next time a friend invites you out and you say yes, then you get all lazy an hour before you're meant to meet, scrape yourself up and make an effort. They've probably done their hair and make-up by now and are planning where to go! Or if you see a friend is calling you and you don't want to answer, do it anyway. It only takes a few minutes and you'll be making them feel better. Its really very little effort to do these things and they'll leave you both happier people.
Friendship is precious and does require maintenance! Don't let the 21st century ruin your chance at having real friends.
Love love!
xo-xo
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